When Does A Man Lose Respect For A Woman?

When Does A Man Lose Respect For A Woman?

“I have a question for your blog. When do men lose respect for a woman?  Example: out on a first date woman sets limit no intercourse but everything else goes. Guy parks car and all else but intercourse happens. Does he see woman as not relationship material for long term?  Is this something a high class women would not permit? I am sure other women question this.” M.P.

Sex in the carWhen does a man lose respect for a woman?

Personally, I think the more important question is when does a woman lose respect for herself?

So let’s take your question about intercourse. In the context of timing when it comes to sex, a man should respect your wishes period. Let’s say you prefer to wait for marriage before sex or you prefer to have a conversation about exclusivity if you are going to have regular sex. These are your rights and you should stand by your beliefs. If you’re concerned he might lose interest because you don’t sleep with him… well then his loss. Therefore, the last thing you should be thinking about is whether or not he respects you, in this case you might even want to ask yourself if you even respect him?

Getting into a car and doing everything but sex, is not how a man bases long term commitment.

Men choose long term commitment when they’re attracted to their partner, they have fun together, she accepts him for who he is, there is a strong friendship between them and yes, he respects her.

Respect is a foundational piece of all long term relationships and from my experience, men respect women who respect themselves. A woman who respects herself focuses more on “whether or not” she respects him. Do his actions match his words? Does he call to plan dates? Does he respect her wishes when it comes to intercourse?

A woman who respects her beliefs is always in integrity and men are very attracted to a woman who respects herself. If he doesn’t, do you really want to date that man anyway?

Men tend to respect what they earn. Getting into a car on a first date and doing everything but sex is rather easy. A man may view this woman as easy, thereby thinking she doesn’t respect herself, and he calls her “low hanging fruit.”  The men who go after low hanging fruit do so because they are easy to “bed” and men rarely choose them for a long term relationship.

So here’s my take, if you’re a woman who has to ask “when does a man lose respect for a woman?” Chances are, he already did… but did he even respect you in the first place?

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14 Responses to When Does A Man Lose Respect For A Woman?

  1. Mary June 22, 2013 at 4:38 pm #

    This is all very true!

  2. Mary June 22, 2013 at 4:53 pm #

    What about if you have dated several times–and went for mutual oral in a parked car, woman ok with this–even wanting it?

  3. Jonathon Aslay June 22, 2013 at 5:04 pm #

    Mary, I’m not clear… what is your question about dating several times?

  4. Julie June 22, 2013 at 5:57 pm #

    Good post Jonathon.

  5. Donna C June 23, 2013 at 2:37 am #

    great post..Stay strong to your beliefs. Slow slow slow down get to know each other before you start exploring each other intimately. I believe lots of women give in because they are afraid he will stop seeing her. So when you feel he will leave then he isn’t a good match for you..MOVE ON..there are men that will respect your wishes..

  6. Mary June 25, 2013 at 5:08 am #

    Reality–maybe we don’t alway want to see what is right in front of us! Once we know what we want we cannot ever settle for less or we feel terrible afterwards.

  7. Mary June 25, 2013 at 5:21 am #

    I wasn’t afraid he would stop seeing me. I didn’t give in. I set my limit and he respected it.

    I saw him several times but this was over the course of maybe a year. Sometimes it was me keeping us apart as getting a sitter is often impossible and always out of my budget.

    My gut feeling is 1) he doesn’t see me as long term potential 2) he is not looking for a girlfriend. Never has he called me. He only texts saying he wants it, to which I reply my need for being exclusive/monogamous before that.

    I did allow mutual oral and I will never again. Because it was incredible, the best I ever had, the chemistry high, I feel hurt now that (of course) I have not heard from him. We share social community and I see him often there where he stays away from me. Bizarre?

    I would like to meet a family oriented man. Someone where I can go to their home for dinner, parks with the kids, a friend and a lover. They cannot come to my home though. I would like someone secure, stable, mature, clean body, honest, mentally sane, disease free/agree to condoms….to see consistently if once a month but that we TALK on the phone once a week, laugh….

    Any ideas or tips appreciated as we can all help each other :) Thanks.

  8. Is October 26, 2013 at 11:05 am #

    As a woman in search for long term relationship sex is important and want to find out if it’s any good b4 getting emotionally attached… what to do then?

  9. JC October 26, 2013 at 11:44 am #

    As a man I will tell you, I have no respect for a woman that lacks discretion. Does this mean I am disrespectful towards her? Of course not. Mutual understanding and morals are important foundations to build upon; in addition, most men and women often don’t verbally communicate those interests and painfully place their expectations upon one another more often resulting in negative experiences. So guys and gals, next time someone tries to make you feel like you have to compromise who you are to gain their affection, slap their hand away and say with a pointing finger, “Hey! I’m not just anybody’s ho ho!”

  10. Yolanda February 5, 2014 at 6:47 pm #

    This seems to be a double standard going on here. She is a low hanging fruit but he performed the same act so is he not ease also and a low hanging fruit?

  11. Jessicah March 1, 2014 at 4:08 pm #

    I don’t think sex and respect are mutually exclusive. I have no problem sleeping with a man when I want to sleep with him. But then I have never been one to rely on a man or anyones opinion to gauge my self worth.
    I respect myself, that is what matters. I really could care less what is in the mind of a man unless I care about him. I respect him and myself. He respects me or he is out the door, its really that simple.

  12. Tania March 13, 2014 at 12:32 pm #

    I don’t think I can ever fully understand the “logic” , a term I use loosely, behind a man losing respect because his woman agreed so easily to sex.
    Here’s food for thought, ever think a woman loses respect for a guy when he asks to have sex so soon after dating?People need to quit excusing these head games…Anyone like this does not deserve respect if he is going to be spoiled afterwards

  13. Lilliam October 7, 2014 at 12:46 pm #

    If it’s lost is there any way to gain it again?


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